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June 2016

What’s Your Story?

Everybody loves a good story—a spine-tingling mystery, a suspenseful adventure, a powerful biography, or even a sappy romance. Best of all, who doesn’t love a great story of a real overcomer—triumph of an ordinary soul least likely to succeed who does something stupendous against all odds. Sarah Breedlove’s story is one such story.

Sarah’s parents and siblings were enslaved and she, being the sixth child born in 1867, was the first in her family to be born free. Orphaned at seven years of age, the possibilities in her life were bleak. By ten, she worked as a domestic and married at age fourteen. Within the next six years, she had a daughter and her husband died. By the end of the next six years, she remarried and divorced. She married Charles J. Walker in 1906, but that marriage also ended in divorce in 1912. What prospects could an uneducated single mother, widowed once, divorced twice have had in an age when women had not even achieved the right to vote besides the challenges of national racial barriers?

During the 1880s Sarah found work doing laundry for a dollar a day to support herself and her child. On top of her misfortune, she suffered painful hair loss due to poor nutrition and harsh lye soaps. Life dealt her an impossible hand, but sometimes the very thing that brings hardship is the trigger event for a turnaround.

Sarah’s brothers were barbers and had knowledge about hair conditions. She learned from her brothers and developed hair care treatments that not only restored her own hair condition, but helped others as well. She sold the products that she developed from door to door under her married name, Madam C. J. Walker. She trained other women and by 1917, 20,000 women were selling her products door to door. Sadly, she died at age 51 in 1919, but by then her estate was worth $600,000, considered a fortune in its day.

Retelling stories like Sarah’s make a difference for several reasons. It tells us that what seems impossible can change. New possibilities appear when vision seems cloudy. It dispels the “I can’t do anything to make my life better” excuses. When people find a way to triumph in a tight spot, it affirms the notion that ordinary people do extraordinary things when they persevere.

Stories of victory both simple and spectacular are begging to be heard in every venue possible—electronic media, film, person-to-person, and most definitely in church and community contexts. Telling of a healing let’s the one in pain know that God cares about suffering and desires people to be whole. A simple testimony of provision gives hope to someone facing lack. Good stories tap into powerful emotions that move people to action.

When I was in college, my friends and I had a regular study group. We frequently gathered at my house to prepare for tests or do assignments. I remember that during our snack breaks, my mom would regale my friends with stories of growing up in Europe and navigating her way through WWII as a teenager. Sometimes they were funny, other times heart wrenching, but they always ended in hope and triumphs great and small. Every time we met they begged her to tell them more.

Beyond pure entertainment, storytelling holds a powerful place in human drama. Through the influence of a compelling story, we can be emotionally moved to tears, laughter, or outrage. Coerced by strong stories, we cheer for the underdog, support a cause, or even take some scary risks that are normally rejected.

What are your stories? Take the time to tell them in whatever mode is available. You can always start by retelling the abundant supply God’s Word gives (We own them because we are God’s family). You just never know whom you will touch and inspire. If you think you have no stories to tell, pay closer attention to your life and notice the smaller daily victories. And then tell them to yourself in a journal. Tell them to your family, friends, and even strangers. Tell them to anyone who gives you an ear to hear. It will bless the teller and the hearer.

 

Copyright 2016 by Eva Benevento. All rights reserved.

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Eat to Live, Not Live to Eat

Lose ten pounds in two weeks on our drink-a-shake-instead-of-eat diet. Lose 50 pounds on our magic treadmill. Take our abracadabra pill and watch the bulge vanish. Freeze off or suck out the fat at your local clinic. Chuck the vitamins and minerals in vegetables—just eat meat for a few months and watch the pounds melt away—but then spend a fortune on doctor bills because it made you sick. How may more diet and equipment commercials must we endure to feel guilty enough to tackle the avoir du poir that has accumulated in places too difficult to hide? Weigh loss has become a major industry.

I have a theory. We simply have too much—of everything. Our supermarkets and specialty stores are swollen with multiple brands of every kind of food known to humanity. How many different brands and shapes of pasta do we really need? As a culture, we seem to have an insatiable appetite for something new, something glamorous, something imported from places we would never see. Gluttony clamors for more on bigger pizzas, buffet restaurants where people pile on a mélange of grub all for one price, fast food eateries offering a frenzy of greasy meals and sugar-loaded drinks. And then we are disappointed at fine restaurants where you pay a month’s wages for a meal not big enough to fill a tooth cavity. Sounds nuts to me. Somehow the noise of modernity has overwhelmed our capacity for sobriety and moderation in all things and we need to reclaim it before it buries us.

Missionaries are not fat. It’s just a fact; get over it. I don’t mean the vacation warriors who travel a gazillion miles to lend a helping hand or go to church services and conferences in exotic places, enduring up to 36 sleepless traveling hours to get there, and then schlep their exhausted selves back home after a week or so. You may lose a pound or two, but nothing that won’t be regained, and even then some, when you treat yourself to your favorite hyper-calorie restaurant to reward yourself for your pains. I confess I have been on these short-term missionary trips a few times and I’m not minimizing the value of them to the field or the visitor. Everyone should to do it at least once. But I found a hidden benefit you never read in the brochure.

The itinerant and long term missionary is a different breed. Having met a considerable number of those “laid down lovers of God” who forego many luxuries of home, both large and small, to answer the “go ye, therefore” call repeatedly or for long periods of time, I have noticed that they are lean and generally fit enough to walk everywhere without gasping and looking for a bench to rest. Dragging those extra fifty pounds is punishing when you walk miles to get bottled water. In remote villages, the open air marketplace is the only source of vittles, and selections are limited to whatever is available or in season from local farms. Typically, the menu is highly repetitive and simple. They eat to live, not live to eat. Quite a shock to bloated bellies that fold over the waistband, but here’s the good news.

Drumroll – – – Aha! I’ve discovered an amazing weight loss program that you will not see on TV. Every time I go to remote places on an extended time on a mission trip, I drop at least ten pounds (operative word extended). You get to meet awesome people doing miracles every day; you get to do the “go ye” stuff; and for a bonus, you drop off the unwanted heftiness because your diet and travel is nothing like home. You eat way less, eliminate the snacks, move around in often difficult terrain, and sweat more just by being there.  It’s a holistic program–no need to weigh and measure food, no calorie counting, no dragging yourself to the gym since walking is the only way you get to anywhere, and all the while doing what makes your soul and spirit happy. Less really is more. In a few weeks, I’m off to spending seven weeks in Asia. I look forward to coming home different – less poundage and more life.

 

Copyright 2016 by Eva Benevento. All rights reserved.

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